Are we in charge of what we do and how we do it? Or are other people, our way of life or our behavioral reflexs' in charge of us?
Metaphorically, are we at the controls of the vehicle that represents our lives, or do we feel like we are strapped to the bonnet? If we are not at the wheel, then 'who or what is?' can be an interesting question.
Asking it, and pursuing the answers, is one way to start to get of the bonnet and behind the wheel.